About Positive Self-Talk
This technique diminishes your discomfort by changing your vocabulary about your discomfort in your self-talk and subsequently in your external speech. Language plays a powerful role in how you feel. Every cell of your body communicates with other cells. The messages flowing on billions of neurons affect every part of your body. From what you hear on TV, to your family, your doctor, and especially yourself, affects how you feel.
This technique takes control of the language you permit to enter your mind and body. You become the gatekeeper rather than a sponge absorbing it all and letting it affect you. When you decide to implement this technique, you are committing to a life-changing plan of action that takes vigilance, determination, and courage, at first. Like everything you do in life, it becomes easier with repetition, and when repeated often enough eventually slips down into your subconscious where it becomes automatic without thought. This is one of the most powerful long-term habits to develop.
Steps to Use Positive Self-Talk
Step 1: Banish the word “PAIN” from your vocabulary.
Make it a 4-letter word: vulgar and forbidden. Instead, talk only about your “comfort level.” Your comfort level may be higher or lower at certain times, but it is never that P@#$ word! Your comfort level may not be as high as you desire on days when the source of your discomfort is acting up.
Step 2: Create your “Self-Talk Monitor.”
Dedicate a small portion of your brain to monitoring your self-talk. Its job is to monitor all the self-talk and thoughts similar to the way hall-monitors watched high school students to make sure they followed the rules. Your Self-Talk Monitor listens to each self-talk expression and peeks at every thought that come floating through your mind. It examines them to insure that they are positive in outlook and do not contain any references to P@#$. If the P@#$ word comes up, or any of its cousins, or if your self-talk is negative in any way, your Self Talk Monitor immediately says “Cancel! Cancel! Out of here!” and replaces the thought or word with a positive replacement.
Thoughts can be frequent and transient. Be patient and encouraging as you challenge yourself to snare negativity as it passes through your mind. With practice monitoring your thoughts and words, you will learn to interrupt, cancel, and replace negativity. Because of this decision and your monitoring, the negative thoughts will present themselves less and less frequently.
Step 3: Banish the word P@#$ from your environment.
Request your friends and family not to speak to you using that P@#$ word. Inform them that you no longer have any of the P@#$ stuff; you only have a comfort level now. Switch off TV news or commercials about P@#$.
Step 4: Engage powerful positive thoughts.
Develop for yourself some thoughts that reinforce the end of your discomfort and say them often, especially if a negative thought appears. Here are some examples:
- “My comfort level is increasing more and more each day.”
- “My happy mind controls my healthy body.”
- “I am grateful for my health and happiness.”
- “I feel GREAT today!”
The more frequently you say these phrases, internally and out loud, the more you radiate the positive energy that makes the statements 100% reality. More information about constructing positive statements is found in the chapter 14 on Affirmations.